PRINCESS KAILA - LIFE AT THE HAVEN

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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No one knows exactly where she came from or when exactly she first appeared. She just was there one evening, small, afraid, alone sitting in the sideyard tent at Kailo Haven shelter. Some think a former resident brought her there and left her seeking shelter from the storm.

She is black and white, has green eyes and a pretty face that warms your heart. She is absolutely beautiful, affectionate and a survivor.

She is our princess. I call her Princess Kaila. Other residents and staff have their own pet names for her. She is about 2 years old now. And we share the same birthdate.
The Princess is a formerly stray street cat who has graciously allowed us to adopt her. We brush her fur, feed her, tickle her chin, feed her again, stroke her hair, and feed and water her when she needs it.
We also have a long-time house cat called Muff, who looks like Kaila’s mom but they all say she is no relation.
At first Kaila stayed mostly in the tent, content to come inside every so often, but she liked her freedom.

Last year she had her first litter of 4 cute kittens. One died within a week but the others survived and eventually grew strong enough to be adopted by loving staff members. We see pictures of one – Blue- who has apparently just taken over the home of a Kailo Haven staff member with a style that would make his mother proud.

This past March, the Princess decided to do it again. She had another litter. Five little breast-feeders this time. 3 females and 2 males.
We brought the whole family temporarily inside because of outside predators where they could be watched. A love affair began. The growth of the Kailo Five became a major project.
Within 10 days their eyes opened. They began tenative walk movements, often stumbling around, feeling for their legs. They were washed by mom, soon learning to wash each other. They play-fighted with one another and soon found their way outside the box they were in and explored the wide world outside the little nest.
Princess was provided soft blankets, a steady diet of nutritous food and water and much love and care.
And their effect on many of us was remarkable. Sometimes, petty arguements and spats stopped just to take care of the Kaila family.

The sophmore mom was a pro, nursing and raising the litter without a hitch.

All have been adopted by staff members now. One staff member, Mrs V. took two – the twins of the litter. One was mainly black with a tuff of white hair on the left paw and the other one the exact opposite, with white on the right. We know they all are in good hands.
Meanwhile, Queen Muff was not too happy at this intrusion, but she worked out an uneasy truce.

Its remarkable how life plays out sometimes.
In a homeless shelter, where people are sometimes depressed, frustrated, confronted and challenged with bad news and even illness and death, in the middle of all this tragedy – the miracle of new life can begin and flourish and bring out moments of kindness and love.
Its a little sad now that they are all gone from Kailo Haven. Princess is back outside in the tent and she has moments of longing for her crew, but she seems aware that all is well and nature has taken care of them all.

Princess Kaila wanted me to write her story. She considers herself just as much a Kailo Haven resident as anyone else. And she is royalty, you know.

So through the miracle of birth by a stray cat, life at the Shelter was uplifted. And we all are much better for it.
We honor all mothers this Mother’s Day, including the Princess.

(I have just been informed that both Queen Muff and Princess Kaila want their biography titled : The Amazing Cats at the Shelter. And they want royalties)

posted by Erik M Younge.

This article was originally published in ONE STEP AWAY, Philadelphia's first and only street newspaper in May 2010 in honor of Mothers' Day 2010.

   

 

UNSAFE & UNSOUND: SEXUAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN

“All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”

The recent Penn State scandal is a personal shot to the gut. As a father of 3, It packs a powerful punch.
Sexual abuse, in general, and sexual abuse of children is a disturbing epidemic in this country.
The 3 most alarming areas where sexual abuse is a cancer these days are in the schools, the sports arena and the church.

According to a recent major national study by the American Association of University Women, during the 2010-11 school year, 48 percent of students in grades 7-12 experienced “some form of sexual harassment in person or electronically via texting, email and social media…..It’s reached a level where it’s almost a normal part of the school day….It’s somewhat of a vicious cycle. The kids who are harassers often have been harassed themselves.”
The survey asked 1,002 girls and 963 boys from public and private schools nationally whether they had experienced any of the various forms of sexual harassment: unwelcome sexual comments about/to them, being physically touched in an inappropriate sexual manner, being shown sexually explicit photos, being called gay or lesbian in a negative way as an insult, and having to deal with unwelcome sexual rumors and malicious gossip.

In the sports world, Penn State scandal is just the latest of several incidents of sexual abuse, harassment and improprity that have come to light.

A report by Edward Williams in The Grio online site highlighted the case of Ernest Lorch, a millionaire investment attorney and founder of the very successful Riverside Church Basketball program in Westchester County and Bob Oliva, head of Christ King Regional High School basketball program in Queens, NYC.
The Christ King program has won 5 city championships. Many of its players, like Lamar Odom of the Lakers and former Nets Jayson Williams, are known NBA ers. In 2009, Bob Oliva was “forced to resign in shame after accusations of child molestation and an investigation which led to him (Oliva) pleading guilty of all charges listing him as a sexual predator.”
Ernest Lorch also became the target of an investigation into sexual abuse charges when a former player came forward with the revelation that he had been sexually abused since the age of 12 by Lorch, who tried to buy his silence with large sums of money to keep silent.

In 2010, Bishop Eddie Long, a mega church Georgia minister was accused of several accounts of sexual abuse of young men, from their early teens until they turned 17. Long, at first, denied any wrongdoing, but soon settled financially all the accusers claims to stem the tide of growing sexual abuse complaints.
Added to the Catholic Church priests scandal, sexual abuse cases have involved religious denominations from Baptists to Jewish rabbis.
There is a common thread running through a majority of these cases: the victims are overwhelmingly from underprivileged backgrounds, so-called at-risk kids, throwaway children, neglected youth, nameless, faceless and voiceless who “were invited to play a sick, dangerous and twisted game, while many good men watched in silence, and did nothing.” (words of Ernest Williams).

Young African-American boys have been especially the victims of these predators. Perhaps it is because they are labelled “at-risk”, “underprivileged”. They have the least defense mechanisms and resources to fight back, and so are the most vulnerable.
The sports arena predators use the athletic dreams of Black boys to build their trust. such as Lorch, Oliva and Sandusky at Penn State did with their basketball programs and football youth academies.
When that trust is betrayed and the sexual abuses and rapes occur, these boys/victims are afraid to report the abuse. Who will believe them? Men can’t report such abuse. Especially by another man. That will show that they are a real man. Or the monsters of abuse will pay off the victims to maintain their silence.

As a father, a man, a basic human being, this evil compels me to work harder against such and any instances of sexual abuse. We all good people cannot be silent and allow it to continue. Like the Good Samaritan in the New Testament, we must ask ourselves, “If I don’t act, what will become of that abused soul?”.

posted by Erik Younge: comments at eryounge@gmail.com

 

OUR YOUTH: FROM UNSAFE & UNSOUND TO SAFE & SOUND

I AM A COMMUNITY JOURNALIST THAT WRITES FOR A NEWSPAPER IN PHILLY, A STREET NEWSPAPER CALLED  -  ONE STEP AWAY - MAINLY WRITTEN, EDITED AND PRODUCED BY GOOD SOLID WOMEN AND MEN WHO ARE EXPERIENCING HOMELESSNESS CURRENTLY OR HAVE EXPERIENCED HOMELESSNESS, HUNGER AND POVERTY.

THESE POSTS CONSTITUTE A SERIES OF ARTICLES OVER THE PAST 2 AND A HALF YEARS THAT DETAIL ISSUES AND CONCERNS ABOUT YOUNG PEOPLE, FROM PRE-TEENS TO TEEN-ADULTS.

 

JUST ORDINARY PEOPLE…….


Minister Peter Gomes smilingly points out that as a pastor of a church, he wonders why his congregation usually spends so much time worrying over church concerns and spends so little time on church celebrations.

I think this applies to all of us. We like to highlight negative or the troubling events in our lives and downplay the positive or ‘bland’ feel-good events.
I’m guilty of rolling in juicy gossip at times as most people. So I like to use this particular feature to point out Just ORDINARY PEOPLE doing extraordinary things.

One of my favorites is Rasheedah Phillips and her daughter Iyonna.

I still remember the May 2005 Phila. Inquirer story by reporter Susan Snyder that introduced me to this ORDINARY WOMAN.
Rasheedah was an A student at Lincoln High School in Northeast Philly. She became pregnant at age 14. The expectant teen mother lost 6 months of the 9th grade, saw her A’s drop to C & D & F’s, followed by severe depression until she was briefly hospitalized.
Despite negative advice from negative people, Rasheedah never considered abortion or adoption. She was determined to make a better life for herself and her child. She would not let the stereotype, the image of the lost teen mothers trapped in a viscous cycle halt her dreams and goals.

ORDINARY PEOPLE find strength in adversity and fight against all odds.
Her story continued in a 2008 follow-up piece by reporter Snyder:
Rasheedah graduated from Lincoln with several awards and $9000 in scholarships for her outstanding achievements.
She decide to attend Temple University, while working a job and raising her daughter Iyonna.
She became a criminal-justice major, a research assistant, data transcriber and office manager, and also blossoming into a “terrific writer” as one Temple professor remarked.
Her story inspired many folks who wrote to Rasheedah, donated money, marvelling at her courage and determination.
On May 22, 2008, Rasheedah graduated with highest honors from Temple’s Beasly School of law. Her daughter Iyonna, then 9, proudly joined her mother walking across that stage in triumph.

It gets even better!
A recent posting on the Community Legal ervices (CLS) website highlights her post-graduate career. She worked in the CLS Family Advocacy Unit, conducted “Know Your Rights” community education sessions for teen mothers, eventually becoming a fulltime CLS public interest attorney. She speaks to countless groups of teen parents and social workers about her life and offers sound advice to help others achieve their goals.
Rasheedah serves on the board of directors for agencies that provide nedded care and services for chldren. She has contributed insightful articles to a number of books and publications . She has taking the time to provide helpful sisterly advice to younger African-American girls on the importance of using the inner power within us all to serve the community . She drafted a stinging petition calling for radio stations to “Implement measures to screen and minimize disrespectful lyrics” that denigrate and abuse people, especially women and children.

And her daughter Iyonna, now 11, is a mirror image of her mother, a bright, intelligent, positive pre-teen described as an avid reader and eager learner.

I had the opportunity to personally meet Rasheedah after placing a call to her office at CLS to discuss this article. She was flattered by the iea and she graciously agreed to meet with me the following week.
It is rare that one you admire from afar exceeds your expectations. Rasheedah was humble, gracious, intelligent, exuding a warmth and a strong serving commitment.
We conversed for a while. I introduced her to this paper 1 Step Away and talked about its purpose and the community it serves. We then shared stories about our children and i wished her much success in the future.

I like to end with this quote from an article Rasheedah wrote for the Drum Major, a publication of the Pennslvania Legal Aid Network in 2007:

"I am often asked why I chose to embark on this particular journey of serving the community when a law degree gives me nearly infinite possibillities, many of which could net me a comfortable income. Unfortunately, from the perception of many, a lawyer’s job is synonymous with a large income, television-like courtroom drama, and the defense of the supposedly immoral and depraved. Why , then, did I choose to do public interest work? There may be infinite possibillities for this degree, but for me, in my proverbial heart, mind, body and soul, there quite simply is no choice among those possibillities. …………………..
It is my humanity, my human experiences, and my interconnectedness to other humans whom I most identify with that forces me to attempt to improve our lot. Some people allow such experiences to jade them, or perhaps they become consumed by them, while others let their experiences drive them and give them purpose.
I have captalized on one of my many purposes this summer, and I plan to continue to do so in my future career as a public interest attorney.”

Just ORDINARY PEOPLE……doing EXTRAORDINARY things.
dedicated to rasheedah and Iyonna and all teen parents. Peace.

posted by Erik Michael Younge. @JAGUAR ENT./2010


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